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I am fully aware that I have a taste for the boujeer things in life. Don't get me wrong, chicken fingers and $4 turkey burgers from the local bodega will always make me super happy, but when it comes to clothes, I like to have fun. Dressing up always makes me feel special, and dressing up in chic loungewear is one of my favorite pastimes. Let me paint the picture for you: Imagine, you wake up on a crisp fall Saturday. You slip on your fuzzy pink slippers, satin or silk robe and walk to your balcony tp sip on mimosa (or tea if you want to be healthy or some shit) and strawberries as you flip through a magazine. In my opinion, that is the ideal way to start any weekend.

Honestly, this simple luxury is one of the most blissful things I do for myself. Life tends to fly by, so I firmly believe in adding a little bit of luxury to my life any chance I get while staying within my budget. You can feel like a queen without breaking the bank by adding a luxe ritual like this to your weekend schedule. I have a few of theses items in my shopping cart and plan to work this into my weekend morning routine a lot more often. It's nice to realize that we are capable of making each day feel special without a lot of effort. Cheers to the weekend my friend, and thank you for spending part of your day to read this post. I hope it inspires you to do something a little "extra" that will put a smile on your face.


Luxe Lounge Pieces 
Slippers & Socks





Robes, PJs & Little Lacy Things 

I've been lucky enough to have always been surrounded by ambitious, creative people. Even as a kid, I was consistently in environments where people wanted to be the best versions of themselves and ferociously went after their dreams. I believe that growing up in positive environments like that helped me to believe that literally anything was possible. But as I've gotten older, life has thrown so many obstacles my way that have led me to seriously doubt myself in the past 3 years. I know I'm not alone in feeling this way.

 I love discussing my insecurities with my friends and learning to not be ashamed of them, but I also know that the only way to create the life we want is to learn how to overcome those mental roadblocks and get to fucking work. But pushing past those negative beliefs can feel like pushing a heavy bolder up a fucking mountain. It's a lot to take on by ourselves. That's why I made a simple little rule for myself in 2018 to ensure that I am constantly rejuvenating my spirit through impactful events. Each year, I challenge myself to go to a minimum of three career/personal development conferences. And I'm happy to declare that I've met this goal for the past two years.

Yesterday, I attended the Small Business Summit in NYC ( a conference for women, by women, designed to help us create the businesses and lifestyles we desire) by Create & Cultivate. Create & Cultivate has been one of my favorite career and personal development resources for the past few years. I actually attended another conference by the company back in May. But I loved how hyper-focused this event was. I walked away feeling so inspired and powerful.

In my opinion, there is nothing more vital to our sense of self-fulfillment than investing in ourselves. There were so many amazing pieces of advice shared during the event and I was able to connect with so many intelligent, creative, driven women. I left the conference feeling re-energized and excited to take action instead of letting my negative thoughts stop me in my tracks. But I wanted to share a few of my top take-aways from the event with you so you can feel recharged to. So here we go:

Lesson One: We are capable of giving ourselves everything we want.

We live in a time where technology allows us to have access to pretty much every tool and resource we need to make our dreams happen. Isn't that insane? Although there is definitely a dark side to being exposed to too much technology, past generations have never had access to so many people, sources of knowledge and global resources. We don't need to wait for anyone give us permission to do anything anymore. if you want to be a director, start making movies and publishing them on your own website or youtube. If you want to be a chef, start creating dishes and sharing them on social media. If you want to be an artist, start creating work in your free-time and sharing it with your community. We can teach ourselves almost anything to help us stand out in our desired industries. Like, damn, who knew that you and I were this freaking powerful?

Lesson Two: The road to success is going to be really uncomfortable, and you have to accept that if you want to win.

One of the Co-founders of Health-Ade spoke about how she was living on $300 a month and delivering her products in her own car while starting her business. But Now Health-Ade is in every bodega, grocery store and convenience store I go to. It just goes to show you that we really can survive the hardest times if we stay focused on our dreams and stay frugal/savvy.

Lesson Three: Execution is so much more important than the idea.

There's really no point in freaking out over competition or being in an "oversaturated market"... pretty much every single freaking market is oversaturated. Just focus on providing the most value, delivering the best product/service you possibly can, or developing the most vital skills in your industry to be a top employee.

Lesson Four: "Don't let yourself be stopped by disappointing outcomes" - Stacy London 

Stacy London and Sophia Bush shared incredible advice in the last panel of the summit. They both talked about a few heartbreaking failures they had experienced in their careers and how easy it is to give up once you experience the pain of disappointing yourself. The stressed how you have to learn how to constantly get back up off your ass after you cry and scream and eat ice-cream and learn how to solve your own problems because no one else will ever solve them for you. You are the only person who can change your life and your circumstances. They are both HUGE advocates for therapy and for finding a small tribe of friends who are like family to help you through the hard times. Living am extraordinary life will never be easy. Even if your version of extraordinary is living on a farm with your family, that's totally ok as long as it's what you actually want. But we are all going to face a ton of road blocks during this lifetime, but there's always something beautiful on the other side.

I hope these top take-aways help you boss up this week. I have a feeling we are all on the cusp of creating something magical in our lives. After all, autumn is the season of magic and wonder. What has been the biggest lesson you've learned this week? I'm excited to keep growing with you guys. Until next time my friend.

Photo by Emma Matthews Content Production

2019 has gone by way faster than I would prefer, but when does life ever go as planned? At least it finally fall! The crisp air, sunny walks, cozy fires, camping, layered fashion, al fresco dinners, beautiful foliage... uh, fall activities are so incredible. I love how active we can be without sweating to death. And we can look cute without sweating through our outfits, so it's no surprise that I love fall. I love wearing nice outfits, but I hate spending a lot of time getting ready. So I kind of gravitate towards a few tried and true outfit formulas each fall.


I love how sexy and chic, yet relaxed this combo is. You get to be cozy while showing some leg during these cooler months. When the weather starts to cool down, I always pair mini skirts with taller socks or even knee-high socks. This adds an even sexier element to the outfit while still keeping you warm and fashionable.





To me, this outfit screams "I'm a posh,  bad bitch," and that is ALWAYS a vibe I will gravitate towards. Whenever I wear this tried and true uniform, I feel like Victoria Beckham. If I want a dressier look, I will pair this outfit with sleek heels or tall booties. If I'm planning on walking a lot, I'll wear with black or white sneakers. Either way, this outfit formula gives me a huge rush of confidence. I always feel so powerful and put together in a blazer...even if my life is kind of a shit show IRL.





If I want to feel like I'm wearing PJs all day but still wear a powerful outfit, this is my ideal get-up for the day. I love leggings, especially thick, high-quality ones that keep me warm and shape my butt. Although this outfit formula sounds beyond basic and extremely boring at first glance, once you pair these items with a cool trench coat or a fun wool coat, this outfit becomes a show stopper. I gravitate towards classic pieces that have been updated with unexpected twists. I recently got a blue, piped trench from Talbots and it's one of my favorite pieces for the season (it was on sale the other week, so I'm sure it will go on sale again). Adding a trench coat in an unexpected color or fabric is a great way to add a little fun to your wardrobe. I also LOVE the yellow wool coat I got last year from a sample sale at work. I really don't believe a fall wardrobe is complete without a great wool coat. They are so chic and warm but not heavy to walk around in. They are perfect for southern falls where the season is typically relatively warm compared to the north.




I hope these outfit formulas help you easily get dressed this season and help you feel confident every time you step out the door. I am a firm believer that putting time and effort into how we present ourselves to the world helps us feel good about ourselves. Obviously, wearing a cute outfit is not the magic pill to never feeling horrid again, but it is a great way to prove to yourself that you care about yourself and want the best for yourself. Whenever I show up for myself in this way, I always have an extra surge of energy flowing through me for the day. I hope these outfits do the same for you. What outfits do you wear on repeat in the fall that also helps
you feel put together? I'd love for you to share below! And thank you for spending time to read my blog! I hope you have an incredible day. Until next time my friend.

Photo by Oscar Nord

I'm starting to realize more and more each week that our attitudes can truly make or break our levels of happiness each day. Obviously, this is a "wise piece of advice" that we've all heard so many times. We just roll our eyes whenever some talks about the importance of attitude in a ted talk, podcast or we see an inspirational quote about it. I admit, I was stubborn for a very long time and didn't want to put in the effort to truly fix my attitude. It requires so much effort to stay positive and to manage our thoughts! We have so many of them every day, and honestly, most of my thoughts have been pretty freaking negative for most of 2019.

I felt like my circumstance should change first, and then I'll be more positive after I get "what I deserve," whatever that even means. After all, I work my butt off and put in a lot of effort in so many areas of my life, so where the fuck is the pay-off? This has been my train of thought. And I've spent a lot of time being angry, hostile and upset... but that really isn't working for me anymore. As I sat on my balcony, writing this post, something just clicked in my head. No, my life isn't anywhere near as put together as I would like for it to be. But repeating this cycle of having a great breakthrough, then having a setback, and then being disappointed in myself for not staying on track every single freaking day without accounting for the fact that I'm human and will always make mistakes is putting me in such a funk week after week. Do you see how self-destructive that train of thought is?

I've also been struggling with thinking that external circumstances will totally change my life and solve all of my problems. Once I make more money, find the right loving partner, grow my business, travel more, save more money, pay off all my debt, send more money home to help with my brother's insane medical bills, put more effort into my looks, get a dog, then I'll finally be happy. But once again, this is a toxic mentality to have because after I achieve all of this, I'll just have more goals and different problems. Why? Because problems are forever. Discomfort will always be a part of our lives, so I should stop trying to "fix all my problems" in such a neurotic manner. Like why do I crave instant gratification so much? I guess that's a topic for my therapist and me to dive into in October.

Will I ever stop pursuing my goals and dreams? Hell no! I think having something to strive for makes life sooo much more meaningful, but I am ready to change my attitude and stop resisting the fact that life will always have uncomfortable circumstances as we navigate adulthood. Dating in 2019 is fucking uncomfortable. Achieving more in our careers is fucking uncomfortable. Nurturing a mature and healthy, romantic relationship requires a lot of sacrifices, which is fucking uncomfortable. Getting out of debt is fucking uncomfortable... you get the point.

But also, changing our mindset is uncomfortable. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done because I have to work so hard at it, like every single fucking day, oy. But there's nothing else I'd rather put my energy into because if my mind isn't right, I'm so miserable and depressed. And when I get in a really dark space, it's hard for me to function, even on the smallest level. This is why I spend so much time listening to podcasts, reading self-help/career books and going to my dance classes and workout classes. I also understand that as life gets more and more stressful, I have to add more things to my wellness routine ie., reading more, writing and journaling more, creating more, exploring new neighborhoods and towns more, SAVING MORE MONEY, going to more cultural and networking events, dating myself more and spending more time in nature. Essentially, I have to take care of myself even when I'm exhausted and want to stay in bed all day. And you do too, booboo.

I hope you set aside 10 minutes today to make a small list of the most impactful activities you should add to your weekly routine to help you recharge. Maybe you spend your Friday nights having an at-home spa night instead of going out drinking. Maybe you go to Hobby Lobby or Michael's and pick up a few crafts to start working on. Maybe you set a weekly reminder to go read, paint or draw in the park for 30 minutes every Sunday. IDGAF what you add to your list, as long as it doesn't cost a lot of money and it helps you feel energized. It's ok if you only have one thing on your list for now, but as you start to prioritize your spiritual wellness more, you'll discover more activities that make you feel warm and giddy inside.

We can't keep overdrinking, overspending or overeating to avoid our utter misery - things I've been doing every freaking weekend this month, and these toxic patterns have been throwing me so off-balance. I'd rather accept that I have a lot of work and growth ahead of me, and that's not something I should feel ashamed about anymore. More money, a meaningful relationship, financial freedom and the ability to help my family navigate the insane health issue that has changed my brother's life will enter my life at the right time. In the meantime, I'll train myself to appreciate navigating these uncomfortable seasons, because once I conquer this season, I truly believe I'll be an unstoppable force and will be able to contribute to making the world a much better place.  I have a feeling you'll be an unstoppable force too.

Woo; ok! Thanks for listening to my soap opera today. Now, here are a few things I've seen around the web lately that I think are worth mentioning. Hope you enjoy, and I hope you realize how much your support means to me! We are so going to make the rest of 2019 our bitch and add so much magic to our lives.


Favorite Finds and Links of the Week

• This book is at the top of my reading list because I've been feeling burned out recently. I can't wait to pick up Becoming Super Woman -A Simple 12 Step Plan to Go from Burnout to Balance, by Nicole Lapin. She also wrote Rich Bitch which was the first finance book I read and is still my favorite to date! 
• An inspiring story from a woman who paid off $30K in credit card debt in 6 months!! Like damn! 
• I'm so obsessed with all of these outfits in this blog post by NYC blogger Happily Ever Style! So chic and easy to throw on. Plus I NEED a brown velour maxi skirt
• Depression and anxiety are on the rise, but here is a helpful article about navigating the two in the workplace because we still gotta make money. 
• If you need some inspo to help clean up your life this week, check out this post. 
• I'm starting to build my fall wish list of things to buy myself (I have no shame), and I really want to invest in a beautiful pendant necklace that will last for years to come. 
• Uh, I need a suede trench coat, and I'm loving this $20 one from Shein, this $60 one from H&M, this $125 one from River Island, and if you have a sugar daddy, you could invest in this statement coat from Talbots. It's certainly a piece you'll have for years to come. 
• Here are 15 inspiring journal prompts to help you wind down this evening before bed. 
• Also, for anyone who wants to get better at being your own best date, read this lovely post by Meghan Donovan. She is genuinely a sweet, intelligent and charming person who's dating advice I appreciate and respect.