Wednesday Reads 4.25.18

April 25, 2018

Photo by Brooke Lark 

Hi guys! I hope your week has been peaceful so far. I'm headed to LA this Friday for one of my best friend's birthdays. So even though I only have a four day work week, the past two days have dragged on! Thank the lord it's finally Wednesday though! Once we make it through today, it's basically the weekend, right? And to make the day pass a little faster, I rounded up some fun, interesting and entertaining things I've found around the web. Happy reading and I hope the rest of your week is filled with love and excitement!

Wanderlust: How to travel around the world in 54 days... challenge accepted!

Good Hair Day: I just found out about the online beauty retailer for women of color with natural, curly hair by women of color. The site also carries a ton of amazing skincare and other beauty products. Thank you, Jesus, for blessing us on this day. I'm going to try some of these products like this one for stretching curly hair!

French Girl Vibes: Here are 7 Beauty secrets Parisian Women Swear By. Now we can know how Parisian women pull off the effortlessly chic look/lifestyle.

I've Got the Music in Me: This kid is so precious! I wish I had half the amount of talent in this country kid. If you need a quick smile, watch this kid yodeler. It will make your day, trust me!

Beauty Sleep: I really want to try this anxiety-soothing bedtime lotion. Lord knows I need all the help I can get to drift off to sleep.

More Podcasts Please: Here are 9 Podcasts that help make adulthood a little less scary.

Eye Candy: A&F is making a comeback, and they just released a J.F.K. inspired clothing line for men... I'm intrigued. We all know I'm a sucker for well-dressed men.

Food for the Soul: I found this amazing poem a week or two ago about heartbreak. I think we can all relate to this subject.

Do Your Part: Thrive Global is helping women in prison find their purpose. This is such a heartwarming interview and I can't wait to find a way to get involved with the UnPrison Project.

Currently Loving: I'm officially obsessed with this brand Bardot on Revolve. Now I just have to wait for some of my favorite pieces to go on sale!

Weekly Highs and Lows: I don't really have any special weekly highs or lows. The past week was actually a blur, but I know I'll have something interesting to share after my LA trip. Until next time my dears, and thanks for reading!

A Note on Expectations

April 18, 2018

April has definitely felt like a month of cleansing. Not only have I been spring cleaning my bedroom in small sections, but I started going to therapy this month. You know that saying “April showers bring May flowers”? Well, I’ve been experiencing a lot of emotional showers this month. I’ve cried the entire time during my therapy sessions. At first, I was pretty ashamed about this and felt weak because I couldn’t control my emotions… but after talking to my counselor and a close friend, they helped me realize two things…

  1. I shouldn’t be ashamed of crying because it means I have a lot of passion for things in my life.
  2. I put a shit ton of expectations on myself and on the people in my life. 

So for the rest of spring, I want to do an experiment. I’m going to stop putting expectations on myself to perform a certain way. I’ve literally NEVER done this before. Mainly, I want to see if I can still perform well without adding the psychological drama that my world will fall apart if I don’t put that pressure on myself. Can you guys relate? We millennials get a bad wrap, but I think our generation puts a lot of pressure on ourselves. I push myself a lot, you push yourself a lot. I’m pretty exhausted from it, and I bet you are too.

Between expecting myself to excel in…
  • My PR career
  • My blogging career
  • My fitness goals 
  • My fashion and beauty standards 
  • My pole dancing class 
  • My social status 
  • My financial status 
  • My romance life 
  • honestly, the list just continues  

I realized that even though I told myself that I didn’t need to be a perfectionist, my mindset and insane anxieties are the actions and reactions of a perfectionist. I’ve just been in denial about it, and it took some therapy sessions for me to realize it. So I have A LOT of work to do in order to let go of the pressure I put on myself.  And I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to let go of the desire to be perfect entirely. But I have to try.

My expectations have been making me miserable! So I’m going to liberate myself and stop judging myself for not being perfect and not living up to my expectations right now. I hope you take on this challenge too. You and I will get there eventually. And now for the hard part... putting these words and plans into action. It’s probably going to be waaaaayyy harder than we think, after all, old habits die hard. But together, I know you and I can figure out how to let go of our extreme expectations and let excellence follow us naturally.

Thanks for reading, and I'm wishing you lots of love and serenity.

My Favorite Spring 2018 Trends

April 11, 2018

For some reason, I always associate spring with fairy tales. Maybe it’s because I just want to spend all of spring in a lush, private garden sipping champagne and eating little finger foods (this is called high tea and it's the classiest way to get wasted). And in my head, I picture this garden to look like one at the Palace of Versailles and all of the serves will be buff, shirtless men. To me, that sounds like a pretty freaking magical. But until that fantasy comes to life, I’ll just dress like my life is a fairy tale. Here’s a breakdown of the trends I’ll be rocking this spring. They just make me happy. I hope you fill this lovely season with whimsy and fun. Life is too short to not dress up a little. And just so you know, I get a little commission from the links below. Thanks for supporting my site, and 
thank you for taking part of your day to read my blog. Lots of love!

Polka Dots

Monochromatic Outfits + Two Piece Sets

Citric Prints

Lovely Lace

Enchanting and Flowy Floral Maxi Dresses

April Mood Board

April 8, 2018

There’s really nothing better than spring in the city. There’s a new sense of energy after everyone emerges from hibernation. Rooftops open again, picnics in parks are a constant event, flowers are blooming on every corner and nature walks/hikes are packed into the weekend. Plus, I can stuff my face at food festivals along the water. I get chills just thinking about it, but until the snow storms retire for good, I just have to image that it feels like spring here in the city. What are you excited for this spring? I know it’s going to be a magical season for all of us. And one more thing, thanks for checking out my blog. Your support means the world to me. 

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