It's Freaking Cold But We Still Wanna Look Cute

November 28, 2019

Photo by Anna Utochkina

Why did it get frigid and rainy so soon? Fall, the most magical season of the year, lasted all of 5 minutes. And when it is cold outside, it's very hard to find the motivation to put effort into my outfits.  I'm not going to lie, I pretty much just want to wear leggings and baggy sweaters all day, every day when the weather is poo. Essentially, I'm gravitating towards looking like a sad potato for the rest of the year... but that's just my inner basic bitch alter ego trying to ruin my life. And I'm just not about to let that happen.

So I spent the past week experimenting with cute, cozy and easy outfit formulas to wear this winter. The weather is already brutal enough to put a damper on the day, so I am committed to adding a little bit of joy to each day by feeling cute. And I know that if I don't make it hella easy for myself, I'm not going to follow through with this goal. I hope this winter fashion cheatsheet makes feeling cute super easy for you this winter. If you're anything like me, you feel pretty confident when you look fabulous. I sourced the web for a few winter staples below (ranging from budget-friendly to high-quality and durable pieces), but I'm sure you can find most of these items in your closet if you're trying to save money. Also, All of these items are on sale for Black Friday at the moment, so you won't have to blow your budget!!

*All of these outfits are designed to look great with sneakers, booties, snow boots or the staple over-the-knee boot this season.

Outfit Two: Black Fleece-Lined Leggings + Wrap Sweater (or this cashmere one if you want to be fancy)
I feel so luxurious and regal whenever I wear a cashmere sweater. There's nothing wrong with adding a little bit of luxury into your everyday life.

Outfit Three: Sweater Dress + Thigh-High Tights or Thigh-High Socks+ Fashion Tape or  
I LOVE this outfit combo. But I do admit, it can be hard to find thigh-high tights that stay up by themselves. I've tried using double-sided tape but it rarely works. To achieve this sexy look, your best bet is to order fashion tape or a garter belt. I know garter belts are traditionally associated with lingerie, but who cares. It's your little secret. Plus here in NYC, people wear lingerie as part of their outfits all the time. I personally love this fashion element. It's fun to pair with more conservative pieces like an oversized, turtleneck sweater dress. Contrast always makes an outfit for interesting.

I've never believed in that stupid rule that you can't wear white after labor day.

Outfit Seven: Chunky Cropped Sweater + A-Lined Skirt + Tights

Thanks again for taking a moment to read this post. Your support means so much to me. I hope you look and feel fabulous this winter season. And I hope you take advantage of all the amazing sales this season... but like, only a reasonable amount.

P.S. Some of the links in this post are affiliate links, so it's possible that I'll make like 5 cents if you make a purchase. Thank you for supporting my little corner of the internet.

Weekend Reads: Getting in the Holiday Spirit + Fun Weekly Finds

November 16, 2019

Photo by Osman Rana 

Is anyone else as excited about this holiday season and for 2020 to begin as I am? I don't know what caused this sudden shift in my attitude, because I have always been the type of person who doesn't want to start celebrating Christmas until after Thanksgiving. Because let's be honest, Black Friday is my ultimate weakness. But this year, there's something different in the air. My drastic stance on the Christmas before vs Christmas after Thanksgiving debate might be correlated with the drastic winter weather we are experiencing in the northeast. It got cold real freaking fast here. We had like 3 weeks of nice fall weather, and that was it. So instead of being sad that fall ended sp quickly, I'm just going to embrace all the winter holiday activities asap.

We had our Holiday Editor and Influencer event at work this week and that just sealed my fate. I'm in full holiday mode, and it feels freaking incredible. Christmas music makes me happy. Drinking hot chocolate while walking through all the holiday markets in NYC makes me happy. Watching all the painful cheesy, but somehow amazing Hallmark and Netflix holiday movies makes me happy. It's so easy to integrate simple and fun things into your day during the holiday season. I constantly talk about how I am on a mission to add more joy and fulfillment to my life. You know, make positive changes so I'm not miserable. And in my opinion, the holiday season offers so many low-key, yet rejuvenating activities that you can do solo or with friends, family and SOs. It's the perfect season to ignore all the commercial crap/societal pressures and learn what really matters to you. This is where I'll be focusing my attention for the rest of the year. I'm sure some of you can relate.

On My Radar 11.16.19

  • We partnered with popbar at our work event this week and it was amazing!!! There's a cute location right by West 4th St. in NYC. I'm planning to stop by soon, grab a cup and walk around West Village and look at all the holiday decor. 
  • Shopping Cart: Here are all the accessories I’m loving from work right now for the holidays!!

  • I’m copying this holiday makeup look from Ashley Brooke!! But tweaking it to fit my skin tone!
  • Menu: I want to make both of these dishes ASAP. I'm not going to lie; I'm pretty lazy when it comes to cooking but I also want to eat clean, budget-friendly meals. This walnut crusted salmon seems like the answer to my prayers. And this side dish just sounds incredible. 
  • I need this Zodiac necklace. Been wanting to invest in quality pendants because they are my favorite jewelry piece and my set from Madewell tarnished. Need a classic set 
  • So Cute!!! I want this Christmas themed Monopoly board game! I believe Carly the Prepster shared this and I was like "add to cart".
  • Charm School: What a cute post about being charming... but not in like a manipulative, sociopathic way. More of in a "spread kindness" kind of way.  
  • I think I’m more of a townhouse gal than a luxe condo girl… but I wouldn’t be mad about living in any of these luxury high-rises in NYC. Oy … one day haha.
  • Champagne Problems: I need to go to this new Champagne bar in NYC sooooo freaking soon! Champagne is my favorite. 
  • Financial food for freaking thought!! I love reading all the financial diaries that are so popular now. It's so fascinating and usually, I can learn from the smart money moves or financial mistakes of others.  
  • Boss Babe: It’s totally ok if we don’t have a clear career path. In fact, there are a lot of pros to it… thank goodness! 
Thanks for taking a moment to read this post! Your support means the world to me. Wishing you a day filled with love and joy! 

    Getting My S*** Together + November Mood Board

    November 10, 2019

    Photos: @ananewyork, linuslorentzen, lulus

    I am so excited for 2020 to begin. This whole year has been intense, but everyday, I feel like my relationship with myself gets stronger and stronger, I am able to spot my dysfunctional habits faster and faster, and I am learning that it's ok that I still feel like a complete and total mess. I'm a typical 25-year-old who is experiencing a quarter life crisis. It's kind of comical from afar. Laughing at myself is the fastest way for me calm the fuck down. I know there is so much to be grateful for and we are so lucky to live in America where we have the potential to create any life we please. Why waste time feeling sorry for ourselves for too long? 

    I've wondered what it's like to be one of those people who doesn't put a lot of pressure on themselves to constantly make drastic progress towards their goals. I can only imagine how freeing it must be to not beat yourself up for making mistakes and to have patience during the process. I am not naturally that fucking type of person. I don't think that kind of calmness will ever come naturally to me. But I can totally cultivate those mindful skills. Mistakes are inevitable, because we are human. Making mistakes isn't my issue, emotionally abusing myself after disappointing myself is. But now that I realize the secret to not being miserable isn't to avoid failure, it's to learn to be ok with stumbling over and over again. 

    All I've gotta do is break these habits (easier said than done). And that's just a matter of science my friend.  But I tend to go a little crazy during my Get My Shit Together binge sessions and try to clean up all the mess at once - then I burn myself out and end up making even more mess in my life. I'm not very great at taking the "slow and steady" route, but I realize that I have to master patience so I can stop being so fucking unhappy all the time. 

    And I know that admitting how unhappy I am is frowned upon. I only have a few friends who don't shame me for admitting this as well. Society isn't very great with handling honesty, is it? But the good news is, I'm actually fucking doing something about it. I know what I want, and I am committed to giving it to myself. I know you are too. Because I know we will fulfill our dreams... it might just take a little bit longer than we want, but we're learning to be ok with that. 

    We're not really in control of the timeline, even though I desperately want to be. As long as I show up and try my best, that's all I should ask from myself. And my best will vary from season to season. That's ok too. I'm checking out of this "rat-race" mentality. I might not be amazing at learning to relax or having faith is the process, but I'm getting better at trusting God's timeframe/the universe everyday. I'm on a long journey of healing; but hey, I might as well learn how to have more fun along the way.  

    As always, thanks so much for spending a moment to read this post. Your support means the world to me. Whether you find this post relatable or comical, I hope it added a little brightness into your day. Sending you lots of love my friend. 

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